Recently, I read a forward in a social network. It states; "everyone says that marriage is just like a walk in the park. It is just that the park is Jurassic Park."This statement will be a nightmare for any girl in their twenties or any age whose parents are actively going through groom hunting. This made me want to write my own experience if that would make a girl feel better.
After two long years of my Masters program, I was back home for good. My only dream was to find a job and live my life like a free bird. But like any other Indian girl in the twenties, my parents had no plans of sending me to a far off place to work. This made me work close to home. They wanted me to get married and settled. They wanted me to work at the same time and be married as well. What about my free bird policy? How/when was I supposed to enjoy my life with no commitments? Did I feel bad? Surprisingly, no. Why? I still don't have an answer. Anyways, I don't regret the decision of following my parents till date. So I guess that is good.
During my teens, I was against the arranged marriage system. But after two years of groom search, which included the great horoscope match and parents/ relatives from the groom side enquiring about the family and everything, I found my Menon. He was/is a good individual who loves me to the core. Am I the only person who feels that arranged marriage worked out well with me out of some weird luck? Nope. I don't think so. Almost 99% of my family is married this way and they are going strong. Touch wood!
In the last few years of holy matrimony, I have understood that marriage is never a beautiful dream to see in the sleep. But it is a dream that we create out of every single moment by living through it. Whoever told me that life can never be happy by being married, I felt the urge in me to show them otherwise. I am not trying to prove anyone anything. But God has been kind to me. With two daughters, my life is still good in this phase of my life.
Why is it called the holy matrimony? Is it blessed by God specially? I don't know. Then I will have to think whether the people with the failed marriages are cursed? I don't think so either. I just feel that small misunderstandings lead to bigger problems. The more you bottle up the feelings, it will eventually erupt one day. The more open the conversation among partners, the better their relationships.
Hey, so do you think I open up to my Menon everything and always. Nope. I do have my mood swings. But in a few days, I have my open talk and these days when he see my long face, he doesn't even come up to me enquiring. He just waits for my talk. If I don't do that conversation, I feel like a sloth. Eww. I hate that feeling. To create the positive environment in the family, it is us women who have to actively keep the positivity in the family. I was/am still a free bird. But it is just the priorities that has changed.
Only when all the ragas, thala and swara come together can the song be good. I wish everyone a very Happy Onam with happy thoughts.
After two long years of my Masters program, I was back home for good. My only dream was to find a job and live my life like a free bird. But like any other Indian girl in the twenties, my parents had no plans of sending me to a far off place to work. This made me work close to home. They wanted me to get married and settled. They wanted me to work at the same time and be married as well. What about my free bird policy? How/when was I supposed to enjoy my life with no commitments? Did I feel bad? Surprisingly, no. Why? I still don't have an answer. Anyways, I don't regret the decision of following my parents till date. So I guess that is good.
During my teens, I was against the arranged marriage system. But after two years of groom search, which included the great horoscope match and parents/ relatives from the groom side enquiring about the family and everything, I found my Menon. He was/is a good individual who loves me to the core. Am I the only person who feels that arranged marriage worked out well with me out of some weird luck? Nope. I don't think so. Almost 99% of my family is married this way and they are going strong. Touch wood!
In the last few years of holy matrimony, I have understood that marriage is never a beautiful dream to see in the sleep. But it is a dream that we create out of every single moment by living through it. Whoever told me that life can never be happy by being married, I felt the urge in me to show them otherwise. I am not trying to prove anyone anything. But God has been kind to me. With two daughters, my life is still good in this phase of my life.
Why is it called the holy matrimony? Is it blessed by God specially? I don't know. Then I will have to think whether the people with the failed marriages are cursed? I don't think so either. I just feel that small misunderstandings lead to bigger problems. The more you bottle up the feelings, it will eventually erupt one day. The more open the conversation among partners, the better their relationships.
Hey, so do you think I open up to my Menon everything and always. Nope. I do have my mood swings. But in a few days, I have my open talk and these days when he see my long face, he doesn't even come up to me enquiring. He just waits for my talk. If I don't do that conversation, I feel like a sloth. Eww. I hate that feeling. To create the positive environment in the family, it is us women who have to actively keep the positivity in the family. I was/am still a free bird. But it is just the priorities that has changed.
Only when all the ragas, thala and swara come together can the song be good. I wish everyone a very Happy Onam with happy thoughts.
